Top 5 Tropes I absolutely hate

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Today I will write my first book chat and I hope you will enjoy this topic, I know I have lots of things to say on this matter. (And I hope you will have too!)

Do you ever start reading a book and it’s amazing up until something very cliché comes up, an over-used trope, something you can’t seem to be able to digest? And after that, nothing is the same. The entire book has been ruined for you in just one crucial moment. Because you’re just fed up with reading about the same tropes all the time. I know it happened to me many times before, that being the reason why I’m here – writing this post. The tropes aren’t listed in any particular order. So, let’s get right into it!

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1. The character who is absolutely gorgeous, possesses all those incredible skills/traits, their milkshake brings all the people to their yard and yet they complain about themselves all the time.

I can understand low self-esteem. Okay. I can. I have my own share of it. But I’m not talking of low self-esteem. I’m talking of authors making those very detailed descriptions of absolutely gorgeous characters (full lips, beautiful wide eyes, etc.) and then making them say how unattractive they are. I mean, if you want to write this exceptionally beautiful character, at least, own it! It’s not believable when you describe them in such attractive ways just to have them dismiss everything they’ve said before and then act very insecure.

An alternation to it is the special snowflake or the character who is not like all the others.

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2. The Absent Parents

This happens so much in ya literature, it got tiring. These teenagers aren’t orphans, but sometimes it seems like it because their parents never show up, they never even mention their parents. Nope. Nothing. They give parties whenever they want. They go out and fight demons/monsters/whatever without having to worry about their parents. And I’m here being almost twenty and not being able to miss two calls from my mom without her worrying and getting pissed off at me. Totally unrealistic. And family bonds add a lot to the plot, so I wish ya literature will stop using this trope. I know the whole family thing might not seem as exciting as conquering the world, but trust me, it’s pretty important!

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3. Romances that are described as being great and life-changing when they’re actual very abusive.

I keep thinking about myself and how media (movies, tv shows and books)  gave me very unrealistic expectations of love when I was a teen. When I was 14 years old, I had those stupid ideas that it was romantic not to show your feelings, it was romantic for the guy to act like a total asshole, ignore you and act unavailable as long as he acted nice once in a blue moon and liked me. I’m pretty sure, boys acted like bad guys too, just because movies depicted it as such an attractive thing. When it’s really not. It’s not healthy and your relationship will go nowhere. Just stop telling teenagers that it’s okay to accept abuse and ill-treatment for love. Love is supposed to be something else entirely, it’s about having someone support you in order for you to grow as a person, it’s about having someone who treats you right by your side.

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4. Girl hate and slut-shaming

There are so many books that include girl-on-girl fights and you might argue and say that it happens in real world. I’ll give you that, it happens. But that doesn’t mean it’s a positive thing. Women are constantly pushed to compete against each other, to tear each other apart. So, why would I want to read about this in books too? Why would you want to promote this by including girls who fight over a damn boy? Two people can fall in love with the same person, but you know what they can do in this situation? Be respectful to each other. At least, ignore each other. What is not okay is making the MC insult, slut-shame another girl just because she’s with the guy the MC wants.

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5. Insta-love/Insta-lust.

WHY? why? WHY?

Whenver two characters just met and they’ve already made heart eyes at each other or lusted for each other in the first paragraph, I’m out! I’m sorry, but I can’t stand it. Relationships don’t work that way. It’s true that some people are instantly attracted to each other, it happens, but they still have to work on their relationship, deepen it and move past the initial only-lust aspect. It’s not realistic when characters say their I love you’s after one day, one week or one hour of spending time together. It’s not realistic when you’re trying to sell me this amazing, earth-shattering bond between two characters who barely said ‘hello’ to each other. Just saying.

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What are some of your most hated tropes?

Are there any overused tropes that you like even though you are aware that they aren’t very original?

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37 thoughts on “Top 5 Tropes I absolutely hate

  1. Andreea says:

    I 100% AGREE!!!! In the case of Insta love I thought….even IF people are mutually attracted to each other early on, no one makes a move or starts kissing right away. I read this one book where two people started making out on the first day of his job interview….like….really?
    Also The Name of the Wind….as much as I LOVE that book because of its magical aspects…my god…how is Kvothe so incredibly hot/perfect, absolutely flawless, and talented at everything??? His only “flaw” is that he doesn’t have money but people keep giving him some always…like how is that a character flaw?

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Ugh, yes! I hate when this happens, at some point, I thought there might be something wrong with me since I couldn’t imagine feeling such intense feelings for someone from the first minute I laid my eyes on him.
      I haven’t heard The Name of The Wind, but I heard that the main character is kind of a Gary Stu, very perfect and getting all the girls. I will read that book at some point because I’ve seen people compare it to Lord of The Rings and that’s my favourite series, but I dread not liking it because of this perfection of the male character…

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  2. Emma says:

    This is such a great post, and you mentioned all the ones that I hate as well. I agree with all of them, especially 3 and 4. I’ve always hated the abusive partner trope, and I’ve never been able to understand girl-on-girl hate like that. Lovely post! 😊

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  3. Jackie @ toomuchofabooknerd says:

    Girl hate and slut shaming is probably the #1 trope that I absolutely despise! I think it’s even worse than insta-love! I simply don’t get why there’s so many books where women tear each other down and are super judgmental WHEN WE COULD HAVE SO MANY AWESOME AND SUPPORTIVE FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS INSTEAD! Authors take notes 😂

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Those definitely top insta-love for me too! RIGHT?? Okay, there are conflicts between women. Yes, it happens, but since there are so many, shouldn’t we promote healthier relationships between women instead of putting them against each other? Authors should give up on tropes like that. 😦

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      YES! Why does a girl need a boy to show her how beautiful she is? Like can’t she know she’s beautiful? Does every girl in this world need to be validated by a man in order to feel beautiful? Frustrating and not what we should teach girls.

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      • thecursedbooks says:

        I guess… But is it modesty when you present this amazing, gorgeous girl and then tell us how oblivious she is to how beautiful she is? I mean, those characters seem to have no self-consciousness. And it gets tiring. I really love confident female characters and they should be a thing.

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      • Kristin says:

        Absolutely. I mean, I get it. I went to school with girls who knew they were beautiful and were jerks about it. But still. Ugh. It is an immediate loss of a star if an author uses that exact line in the book. I just can’t overlook it

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  4. Marie says:

    “And I’m here being almost twenty and not being able to miss two calls from my mom without her worrying and getting pissed off at me. Totally unrealistic” YES YES YES YEEEEEEES ahah.
    I love this post so much and I especially agree with the absent parent trope, I think it’s the one that bothers me the most, especially in YA contemporary books. It’s so important and realistic and relatable and most of the time, makes a book 100% more interesting when there are good family ties explored in contemporary books. So, the absent parent thing bothers me SO much.
    I agree about ALL THE OTHER THINGS here as well – the insta love trope bothers me so much just as well… it’s just not happening. Attraction to some people, yes, BUT you have to work in order for the “I love you’s” to come in real life 🙂
    Great post! 🙂

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Aw, I’m glad you liked it, Marie! I agree so much, even conflictual connections with the family are so much better than these absent parents that only show up to get in the way of the romance or whatever. Indeed! I think that one bothers me so much since I have such a hard time connecting to people that way, I mean, once I’m committed, I’m committed for a looong time, but I find it difficult to open up and be vulnerable. And seeing all those characters saying ‘I love you’s so fast and just sharing their deepest secrets is just ugh and not relatable at all.

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      • Marie says:

        I agree. I mean, there probably ARE people saying I love you after two days or something, but… most people just. don’t. I wish there was more of that in books, it’s much more realistic 😂

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Thank you very much! Hahaha, I know! I almost gave up on so many books because of insta-love. I suppose as an author, you want to convince everyone there’s a great connection between your characters, but insta-love is just telling and not actually showing.

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  5. daniellethamasa says:

    Great post, and I can say that I absolutely agree with all of the points you made. I’m also so tired of love triangles. I’ve never seen a love triangle in real life, and too often in books it is completely apparent which love interest is going to be the victor in the end. I mean, if you’re going to have a love triangle at least make both love interests more equal. Having the MC struggle to choose between the two guys/girls/whatever when one is clearly superior in the author’s mind is annoying.

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Totally agree with you! I did see love triangles in real life, but they’re never like they are presented in books. Usually it’s a huge mess with all people getting hurt and it’s not all that romantic. And yes, I think it’s unfair to do that. Also, there are so many books with love triangles where the girl chooses the bad guy over the good one and it gives such a stupid message to readers.

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      • daniellethamasa says:

        Absolutely. Then again, I thought that all the book boyfriends I’ve had over the years ruined my expectations for a relationship in real life, and then I met my boyfriend, who far surpasses any ideas I had for anything. He completely supports and encourages my reading habit and my blog, and he has even introduced me to a few books and manga and anime, so sometimes I think real life can feel like a storybook romance.

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      • thecursedbooks says:

        Aww, that’s so cute! I’m really happy that you found someone that’s so great and understanding and supportive! I’m still in the stage where I think book boyfriends ruined me and any future relationships forever. I hope that at some point, I’ll find someone that is as nice as your boyfriend!

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  6. rebeccamills01 says:

    Literally hate all of these tropes, too haha. Another one that bothers me is when a person is sick or mentally ill and all the sudden, they fall in love and they’re not. It’s such an annoying and extremely topic idea to put out there. I haven’t seen much of it in the books I’ve read, but once I hear about it with another book, it’s a must-skip for me.

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Oh god! I feel so bad for forgetting that one, mental health and mental ill people are having so many issues already with people calling them crazy/insane, speaking without knowing the most basic thing about their disorder, being treated unfairly in society, having their disorders being seen so differently from other illnesses and so on. I hate when authors feel the need to erase their disorders or make them okay with love. The same with characters with disabilities in fantasy that get magically cured. -.- I wish authors would have more empathy towards people that feel represented by those characters and how such ‘ideas’ affect them since they can’t be magically cured by love or what else.

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      • rebeccamills01 says:

        No worries! You’re exactly right, I think as readers, we like to see their struggles and how they overcome them or how they at least try to make their situations better. It really helps to relate more to the character and actually could even be a resource or example for people.

        I read How It Feels To Fly in which one of the characters has severe anxiety and her counselors give her tips to manage and try to help her anxiety subside. I actually found them very helpful and I often think of them when I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed.

        We want, need and deserve to see mentally ill people dealing with their illness, being in relationships and being lovable without looking for a cure.

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      • thecursedbooks says:

        I totally agree! I’m glad that you got some great tips from a book, I feel like authors must focus more on the importance of therapy and you know, reliable ways to cope with mental illnesses and not come with things like love. That is a very powerful statement, one which I am behind completely. It’s a very hurtful trope and I hope authors stop using it and instead try to raise awareness on how we should treat mental ill people with more kindness and be more understanding. ❤

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    • thecursedbooks says:

      Aw, I prefer classics to ya lit when it comes to this aspect too! But I still like young adult books, I often find some books that are quite amazing in the genre. So I couldn’t completely give up on it, but I do agree that they should stop overusing tropes (especially ridiculous ones).

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  7. Poulami @ Daydreaming Books says:

    Oh yes, so freaking much!! I agree with this list!! Each and every one of them! I want more girl love in books and definitely want to see more decent parents, it’s like they don’t even exist! Great post!

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